How To Win An Argument
How many personal dealing have you had where the outcome has been beyond expectations because you’ve proved your point beyond a reasonable doubt, not any I would imagine. The idea of piercing your targets skull with the point of your finger until they relent is quit powerful I must admit, has this tactic worked for me, never. Although I know the outcome, I’m somehow compelled to test it and others every now and then. (I say sorry a lot.) You never win an argument, actually let me correct that you can win the argument and nothing else. If your interested in influencing someones opinion for business or to just be respected, arguing isn’t the answer. No one wants to hear anything you have to say especially after a verbal thrashing/diarrhea, would you? Negative emotions never produce positive results, Just ask Abraham Lincoln, he was challenged to a duel because he berated someone endlessly. Can you imagine duelling? Where every comment had real life ending consequence, I’m sure all sentences would be carefully worded. Arguments are a skill set with negative returns, no one wins.
If your interested in winning friends or business associates or just plain be respected, smile, be genuine, and listen more than you think you should.
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