I have failed at many things in life and business but I knew instinctively to keep moving forward. It took me a long time to understand that failure is a byproduct of success. The idea of admitting failure meant that people viewed you as weak. It was almost looked at as the wicked step child you never talk about, yet it’s a constant factor in anyone’s life experience or business. I would personally always attempt to dismiss it, but what I learned when I looked at it objectively was educational. If a part on a car is bad you don’t throw away the car you diagnose the problem and replace the part. My point is success does not always reveal it’s self until it’s ready or willing, sometimes it needs to fail in order to succeed. I know many people myself included that sometimes has to take the long route. (Try and learn from other peoples experiences, you can save yourself a lot of time and pain.) My opinion on failure is embrace it, that’s what lets you know your doing something great. Every time your willing to put yourself out there encourages others to do the same. Trust me they’re watching and they’ll only reveal themselves when you follow through.
Everything you ever wanted is on the other side of fear.
P.S. I’d love to hear your story of failure and how you turned it around. Please post in the comments below or send me a tweet @chrisgenge
I love how Jia Jiang turned the feeling of rejection and fear on it’s head and discovered strength in himself and inspirational people along the way.
Chasing your dream requires you put everything out there and deal with the consequences. When aspiring entrepreneur Jia Jiang left corporate life to build his dream company, he had no idea it also meant facing crushing rejection.
Jason Comley created a game to help anyone build confidence and overcome fear of rejection. Check it out! >>>www.jasoncomley.com
In business or hosting parties it’s important to know how to tell the good red wines from the bad. This short tutorial shows you how to impress your guests like a Pro.
How can you taste red wine like a pro? Why should you swirl? What flavors should you look for? To get the answers to these questions –and more– watch HowTo: Taste Red Wine from Wine Spectator.
Practical tips Every Professional can use to look your best.
Weeding Out The Troublemakers
I’ve been in the furnished rental business in Toronto for over 15 years and I can count only 2 serious incidences that places got trashed. Once a prominent actor had an in-prompt to dinner party in his penthouse suite, by the look of the suite everyone showed. Cigarette and cigar butts on the floor, spills on the furniture, carpet, beer and liquor bottle spewed throughout the suite. Oh! did I mention it was a particularly “warm” Friday night and the end of the month. The last night of stay in the suite, flights were booked for the next morning. As I’m sure you have guessed the penthouse fermented until Monday morning when maid service was scheduled for cleaning and my next set of clients were scheduled to move in that afternoon. Stressful was a word that could make the short list, absolutely. Walls had to be patched and painted, professional carpet/house cleaners had to be brought in to remove the stains and what contributed to the stench that permeated every inch of the suite. It was an unpleasant moment to say the least. What I later learned was just a series of misunderstandings. (The broken telephone theory) I’m very thankful to deal with such great people. The people behind the film industry in Toronto are second to none, they are in the business of keeping everyone happy. What would have taken mere mortals days took them hours, because they care. Most of us have an intuition about a person or a situation but it doesn’t always work. It’s really unfortunate that this happened and I by no means am trying to equate my story to theirs but it does arise on occasion. Picture where you live, I could almost bet this has happened in your community. Growing up I had been to a few house parties in high school where parents had gone away only to come back to thousands in repairs. Airbnb if they could predict the future would spend their time undoing all that has happened. Should they thoroughly investigate this situation and others to improve on services? Without question. These subhumans fall through the cracks from time to time, that’s where the real attention belongs. The people behind Airbnb had an idea to change peoples lives in a positive way by building this business. The Alberta family had a similar dream in helping their family by using Airbnb’s idea to improve on their lives. Both ideas served one another, until someone without care destroyed all. When something like this happens, your forced discover new ways to improve, protect what’s important and how make it even better. As I write this I keep thinking of that phrase “Don’t let the terrorists win” A little over the top sure, but same premiss. Imagine the Alberta family and Airbnb fight back together, what if they could create a way to not only solve this issue for other families but make it even better. The best ideas and improvements are created out of failures ask Alexander Graham Bell. So what happens now, does this Alberta family and rightfully so, shutdown and shun Airbnb and it’s industry? Does it force changes and laws by politicians to prevent this from happening again? How will the changes if any affect the millions of others that travel the world and enjoy good deals and a unique stay? Only time will tell.
My thought’s to the family.
4 suggestions to improve the odds of a good tenant.
1.) Lengthen the stays to a min of 1-2 weeks. It’ll deter the majority of weekend warriors.
2.) Make sure to do a thorough credit check. Spend the money! An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure.
3.) Check references Call every reference, a casual conversation can reveal a lot about the people your renting to, their family do they have any kids,type of friends.
4.) Neighborhood Watch Have your neighbors keep an eye on you place for suspicious activity or if you live in a condo, that’s where all those gifts to the concierge pay off.
I would love to hear your opinion or ideas, please post in our comment section.
How To Win An Argument
How many personal dealing have you had where the outcome has been beyond expectations because you’ve proved your point beyond a reasonable doubt, not any I would imagine. The idea of piercing your targets skull with the point of your finger until they relent is quit powerful I must admit, has this tactic worked for me, never. Although I know the outcome, I’m somehow compelled to test it and others every now and then. (I say sorry a lot.) You never win an argument, actually let me correct that you can win the argument and nothing else. If your interested in influencing someones opinion for business or to just be respected, arguing isn’t the answer. No one wants to hear anything you have to say especially after a verbal thrashing/diarrhea, would you? Negative emotions never produce positive results, Just ask Abraham Lincoln, he was challenged to a duel because he berated someone endlessly. Can you imagine duelling? Where every comment had real life ending consequence, I’m sure all sentences would be carefully worded. Arguments are a skill set with negative returns, no one wins.
If your interested in winning friends or business associates or just plain be respected, smile, be genuine, and listen more than you think you should.
One of my favourite tools in learning people skills is this timeless book.
If your interested in being a leader or wondering how to start a movement Derek Sivers shows how people dance to their own drummer, literally. Derek captures it perfectly with a pinch of video and a dash of humour.
With help from some surprising footage, Derek Sivers explains how movements really get started. (Hint: it takes two.) (Recorded at TED2010, February 2010 in Long Beach, CA. Duration: 3:10) Watch Derek Sivers’ talk on TED.com, where you can download this TEDTalk, rate it, comment on it and find other talks and performances from our archive […]