In Search Of Success
Successful People Are Always Looking For That Edge.
“I work out.” The answer offered by Sir Richard Branson when asked what do you do to be at your best. You can’t have success without being healthy everyone knows that, but what if it was also proven to increase mental creativity. Would that be enough to get that January b-hind to a gym beyond the tipical 30 days before surrendering to both Ben and Jerry. So here’s how you can become smarter, faster and stronger. When you exercise you flood the brain with hi performing chemicals that improve memory, problem solving and decision making according to an Livestrong.com article on Does Exercise Release a Chemical in the Brain. Want to be smarter, creative and successful? Workout! When in the end of your hard work is you look good and feel great, it’s a no brainer.
What could you accomplish today?
Having a goal each day makes you effective in your work, life or business. The idea of starting with one goal is to build your confidence and motivate you to have several. To create that unstoppable habit of success you have to start your day right. Pick one thing today, devise a plan and follow through. Congratulations you well on your way to accomplishing your goals.
1.) Pick one thing you would like to accomplish today that you feel is important to attack.
2.) Devise a plan, write down how you plan to execute in as many details as possible.
3.) Follow through on the plan you carefully detailed.
Book Recommendation: The Magic Of Thinking Big by David Schwartz
When I started my furnished housing business marketing wasn’t like it is today. My marketing plan consisted of a series of newspaper ads and a lot of cold calling. I’m sure you can understand how odd it felt when I was told that way of advertising has died. It was working yesterday why the change now, the answer obviously was progression. My first obstacle was accepting the fact that the “old way” of doing things had ended and to embrace the new. Resistance to change is in our DNA and I believe I have an extra strand or two just for entertainment purposes. Quiet the lizard brain as Seth Godin describes it. I find when your open to new ideas and quiet the lizard brain the answers seem to find you. My first real experience with social media prior to the revolution came via Facebook. I set up a account to share pictures with people we had met on vacation. It wasn’t long after I was overwhelmed by people I had not talked to in years. My computer began to make noise, sounds I hadn’t heard from it before, An annoying Ping, that wouldn’t stop. Ping!, Ping! It was friends and family connecting with me that I haven’t talked to in years. I began to recognize that Facebook allowed me to catch up with people I’ve missed or lost contact with over the years and the distance no longer mattered. Despite the anxiety of the number of people that wanted to connect, (PING! PING!) my experience was pretty positive. Still not entirely understanding the full potential I continued learning. I started researching anything I could find on social media, which lead me to some great people in the industry like Gary Vaynerchuk, Chris Brogan and my first book “Unmarketing” by Scott Stratten. After considering the many options my choice was twitter and blogging. I chose these two as it suited my appetite to interact with people and share passions. While doing my research you begin to have questions and the biggest one was how long is it going to take? The answer was always the same from every social media professional. “it’s going to take time”. You need the time to build a relationship and you can’t have trust until that happens. Invest some time in yourself and in others to get there, be involved in discussions online, ask questions, make suggestions. Today I find myself enjoying the learning curve of the “twitterverse” and how it actually adds to my social and business life. My description of social media is like being at a dinner party, you politely introduce yourself, share, ask, listen, repeat, its that simple. I’m really having great time meeting new and interesting people who are for the most part happy to help. Having tools that can get like minded people together is always a plus in my book. We’ve been doing dinner parties to connect since the beginning of time. Now that we have a tool like social media I find it faster, convenient and of course less messy.
I would love to hear your first experience with social media. Leave a comment or connect with me on twitter @chrisgenge
Cameron Russell admits she won “a genetic lottery”: she’s tall, pretty and an underwear model. But don’t judge her by her looks. In this fearless talk, she takes a wry look at the industry that had her looking highly seductive at barely 16 years old.
“We have two ears and one mouth so we can listen twice as much as we speak.” Epictetus
One of the best qualities to have in the concierge/Lifestyle Management industry is great listening skills. If your listening intently you often pick up slight subtleties your clients share that you can sometimes use to improve their level of service. There’s nothing like surprising a client with something they need unexpectedly. Possessing such a skills makes you in demand and superhuman in your clients eyes. Malcom Forbes says it best “The art of conversation lies in listening.” Attend any gathering or dinner party and you’ll find them there “the listeners” using their talents. Listeners are always recognized as the smartest person in the room. I find this attribute rarely considered, even though it contributes to successful businesses, respectable careers and a Rolodex of mentors and motivators. So why aren’t more people taking advantage? How do we lose the word “me” and listen better? The short answer is be genuine, asked questions about people’s lives and interests and “shut up!“. Forget that internal monologue telling you how much smarter you are, and how much better you could do. Imagine the last time you really felt heard by your friend or a colleague, how did you feel? People like Nelson Mandela, Richard Branson, Oprah Winfrey all from different walks of life yet have one thing in common, they’re all great listeners. If you believe every person that you meet has something to share of value listening is simple. So how do you measure the performance of such a fine tool on either side of your head? By the number of invitations you receive.
Before a meeting or dinner party I will self talk to heighten my listening skills. Your mind is like a computer, whatever you put into it is what you’ll get out. I self talk my best outcome before hand, for example if I want to improve my listening skills I would say. I’m a brilliant listener and someone is about to share something brilliant today that only I could hear. It triggers my subconscious mind to be ready.
2.)Put yourself in their shoes.
3.)Ask about people about their lives and interests.
4.)Ask questions. Use words like How and Really?
5.)Wait for the invitations and repeat.
I hope this helps you as much as it’s helped me. Please share your stories I would love to hear them.
Outsource for success
One of the biggest things I see with clients today is that they try to do it all. How does one manage their career and family.That’s a lot of hats to wear for an already busy life. I find the balance is often tipped when business and personal lives collide. The demands of your work vs the demands of your family are always evolving and can erode any schedule with ease. So how do you find that middle ground? Maybe instead of wearing every hat why not outsource the skills that help improve your lifestyle. Give yourself the gift of free time to restore balance and regain your life again. The biggest thing in improving your lifestyle is to understand your motivations. What comes first for you, family, career, friends. I find every person or family have their own unique set of challenges. If your an elite athlete for example, you may want to improve on a specialty skill or spend more time with your family. By understanding what your motivations are you can carefully plan what’s important. Once you’ve done that, you can now have things that are of less importance outsourced. Having more time and less hassles for the things you enjoy is where you find joie de vi·vre. Wether your a business executive or a pro athlete, your time can be better spent in places that improve on your unique way of life. Business or personal, outsourcing tasks that are of less importance only adds value to a healthier lifestyle.
(Liberty Village) 85 Hanna Avenue, Suite 104 Toronto, Ontario Phone: 416 588 5695
The “hood” of Liberty Village in Toronto is delivering a level of food and service that deserves your attention. A huge modern space, open style kitchen serving a busy and ever growing clientele, what more do you need. Apparently more, in addition to the food we are in need of some mile high naughtiness. I’ll explain, a number of years ago the suggestion/invitation was for customers to have sex in their co-ed bathrooms. Yes I said co-ed as in a shared bathroom, how european n’est-ce pas. Now before you think your birthday has come early and you start heading down to mildred’s to celebrate, there are a few things you should know. Number one they are a restaurant and number two, please observe number one once again. Both owners and staff are notorious for being cheeky, it’s what makes life less boring in my opinion. The truth is it’s actually something that got way out of hand in the media and like any smart business owners, why get in the way. The real story comes from two people that care about what makes a restaurant successful, Kevin Gallagher the savvy front man and Donna Dooer the chef at Mildred’s Temple. Success has a formula and these two owners are the real reason why this restaurant deserves attention. After reading Kaori Furue’s article in the Torontoist back in 2010, you see the picture much clearer about the antics and showmanship they share with themselves and their customers. This character and charm only adds to their religious food following. What you really get at mildred’s is an eclectic group of enthusiastic food lovers, that really enjoy the attention their plate gets before it reaches the table. Simply inspired food, considerate service in a grand open space. As for the naughtiness well… wait for the pilot to set the seatbelt signs to off and hope for a lot of turbulance.
Please share what you liked most about Mildreds.
My Favorites at Mildreds
This handcrafted burger is topped with tomato relish & crispy tobacco onions, served on a pain au lait bun – your choice of mixed greens or frites we bake our buns daily
Mrs. Biederhof’s Legendary Light
& Fluffy Blueberry Buttermilk Pancakes served with Lanark County maple syrup & whipped cream.
Veda’s Choice Mildred’s classic poached eggs on a flakey croissant with your choice of smoked salmon or rosemary bacon, topped with Béarnaise sauce & served with mixed greens
93 Ossington Ave. Toronto (at Queen St W.) | 416.531.3800 Menu
A wonderful combination of elegance and ambience. This tastefully designed restaurant of Chef Paul Boehmer also named after him “Boehmer” On Ossington is a welcoming delight to one’s senses. Assorted cheese plates with a complimenting wine to Kobe Beef on the perfect side of medium. I was quite pleased with everything. Chef Boehmer is at the top of his game after paying his dues in many well known and respected kitchens throughout the city such as The Spoke Club, Opus and The Rose Water Supper Club. If you’re looking for a place to impress your girl, your clients or your friends, this spacious niche and wonderfully knowledgeable staff will help you close any deal. You can find Boehmer on their website www.boehmer.ca Facebook and on Twitter .
A special Thank you to Chef Ross Monro from PEI Culinary Adventures and Medallion Smoked Salmon, Paul Boehmer and the great staff at Boehmer Restaurant.
(Leslieville 1301 Queen Street East)
You want unique and hip it’s at Leslie and Queen.
A small warm unassuming Irish pub that serves up some of the best Oysters and gourmet in the city. The attentive staff, great food, Irish whiskeys and fun loving abuse is what makes this place unique. Don’t even think of ordering a fancy drink here! The owner (Patrick McMurray) is the Guinness world oyster shucking champion and owner of another successful restaurant called the Starfish Oyster Bed & Grill on Adelaide St. Be sure to introduce yourself as he sometimes share some great stories of his escapades around the world. If you ever wondered what it would be like to listen to Lenard Cohen on a actual record player while having dinner in a “patio yurt”, you really need to check this spot out.
Some of my favourite meals were of course the Oysters, Mushrooms on toast with blue cheese, The Peat smoked organic Irish salmon with sour cream/lemon and pickled onions. The Mac & Cheese, and last but not least the braised lamb shank with champ and roasted vegetables. For desert the sticky toffee pudding is a must.